Ugh can't install Java Enterprise Edition do to X11 GUI

[Jonathan Michael Nowacki <jnowacki indiana edu>]

When trying to install Java 2 enterprise edition on a Redhat 8 machine
using a remote ssh link (via my personal windows computer) I get.
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$ ./j2sdkee-1_4-beta-linux.sh
Using /var/tmp as temporary directory...
Searching for Java(TM) 2 Platform, Standard Edition...
Initializing InstallShield Wizard...
ERROR: could not initialize interface awt - exception:
java.lang.InternalError: Can't connect to X11 window server using ':0.0'
as the value of the DISPLAY variable.
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When Logging in remotely via SSH using a Redhat 8 linux box I don't get an
error, instead a graphical window pops up helping me through the
installation.  The only problem is that it doesn't work.  I can't select
the directories I wan't every click is delayed atleast 30 seconds.
Basically the GUI is nothing but a pain in the rear that won't let me
select the directories I want.

So my question is, Is there a way to shut off the X11 GUI for
installation.  Also, when I am installing what directories to I choose for
installation, and what directory do I set my $JAVA_HOME path.

Right now I have
JAVA_HOME=/usr/java/j2sdk1.4.1_02

but after installation, (if the GUI worked) I would get
/usr/java/j2sdkee1.4
and
/usr/java/j2sdk1.4.1_02

which do I choose? for $JAVA_HOME

so recap

1) how do I turn off X11 install
2) Is installing j2ee into /usr/java a good idea?
3) And if so, what directory should I set $JAVA_HOME